Inspired by Associated Press interview with Dr. Nancy

Would you like to soar ahead in life unencumbered by emotional baggage? Then ask yourself: Is there anyone that you need to forgive or who needs to forgive you? Holding onto hurts, resentments of grudges takes up a lot of energy, even when you aren’t thinking about it. It’s like carrying a backpack that you have forgotten is there and yet it weighs you down. This is true for any emotional baggage, but especially for people that you carry in the pack that you have not forgiven.

And why is it so hard to forgive or even forget? Because there is an erroneous belief that forgiving someone makes what they did alright. There could not be anything further from the truth. When you forgive, you are not saying that what happened was acceptable, or that it wasn’t hurtful, or even that you think the person who did should be let off the hook. It merely says that you are done carrying the emotional hurt that gives away your personal power and holds you both in a knot of distress.

There are different approaches to forgiveness. Different situations may benefit from using different the methods. A powerful method is AWARENESS AND RELEASE.

With awareness and release, if you continue to blame someone for what they said, did or didn’t do, you continue to hold hurt, anger, resentment and disappointment. If you think of someone that you need to forgive, ask yourself what feelings go with the memories? Where in your body do you feel the feelings? And how much does it affect you?

Forgiving is letting go of the toxic emotions that get stored in the body and can even lead to illness. It is saying that you are done with the situation and the memories and can release them so that you are free of the baggage that went with the lack of forgiveness. And remember, it doesn’t mean that what the person did is okay.

How do you begin to forgive?

  • Ask yourself, in total honesty, if you had any part in what happened. Accepting your part in any loss of friendship or relationship will assure that you don’t make that mistake again. Refusing to see that you had a part in the problem is almost always a guarantee that you will make the same mistake again.
  • If necessary, apologize within yourself for your part, or at least admit it to yourself, acknowledging how you participated in the rift.
  • See the negative connection between you and the other person dissolve.
  • Send positive emotions to the place formerly held by the negative connection, such as release, happiness, prosperity, abundance, and wisdom for you both.
  • See you both moving forward free of the burden of the past.
  • Give thanks for the lesson learned and accept new ways of being that break old patterns of holding past hurts.
  • Now notice how you feel. Do you feel lighter, more accepting of yourself and your emotions? If so, sit with the new feelings for a while. Allow yourself to accept your past and look forward to your future.
Nancy Mramor Ph.D. REAL CONSCIOUS LIVING 412-445-5352 MISSION STATEMENT: I have been looking for a board position that opens a path of service in a way that calls to my heart for some time now.Thank you for inviting me to share my experience with you. For over three decades, I have been on a journey to work with humanity on 4 Key Goals for Real Conscious Living for the self and the world: 1. Self-love, 2. Self awareness and acceptance of self and others, 3. Health and especially 4. Service and opportunity for humanity. My work as a psychologist, professor, international speaker, on-air media expert, award winning author and board member provided the perfect platform for activating this growth and expansion internationally. MEDIA EXPERT, Media and Health Psychologist With the purpose of disseminating Real Conscious Living to enhance human connection and spiritual living, the largest venue possible was needed and the media provided this perfectly. My first appearance on television, kicked off ways to help children manage the stress of the world, felt like a perfect fit. The result was the opportunity to offer over 400 additional media placements in the U.S., Canada and Australia. TV, including CBS, NBC,ABC, Fox and PBS, work as a producer for PBS, as a radio host and guest, script-writer, and an article and book author. AWARD-WINNING AUTHOR Publications Books Following the greatest challenge of my life, a recovery from devastating end of life stage Leukemia, the outcome was a book called Spiritual Fitness, a guide to combining the mind, body and spirit for health and wellness. The book won a COVR award in the category of bridging spirituality and science, the same award won that year by the Dalai Lama in the category of Consciousness. The methods described in Spiritual Fitness, along with a medical regimen, resulted in a 23 day remission that would have normally taken 4 years. Then, Get Reel: Produce Your Own Life won first place in the self-help category at the Author's Zone Awards in 2016. It explains, with humor, research and interactive participation, how to view media without the negative side effects, one of the biggest challenges of the millenium! Another book on the Top Ten Tips for Lasting Happiness, completed in 2010, is a compilation of research-based chapters by me and local authors and celebrities who share an expertise in each of the ten areas. Human connection was the #1 Tip! Multimedia programs Mastering Relaxation is a multimedia curriculum that evolved from my research on how media can start at the ground level with children creating Real Conscious Living. The research results proved convincingly that with structured support, television viewing can create observable reduction in stress symptoms in children. It was endorsed by the Pennsylvania School Counselors Association. Through my work as a psychologist at the UPMC Shadyside Hospital, a grant from the University of Pittsburgh Shadyside Hospital Foundation, resulted in a Hypnosis for Healing DVD. It is currently used with cancer patients within the UPMC and Allegheny Health Systems. Articles Full articles were published in TABLE magazine, Pittsburgh Professional Magazine, Inspiring Lives and various local and national publications. I have been interviewed by journalists for expertise and inclusion on matters of psychology, media, current events and trends in technology's effects on health. Some of the publications include Women's Health, Men's Health, Health, Chicago Tribune Review, Washington Post, Los Angeles Times, Hearst newspapers, Sun newspapers in Canada, Dow Jones Moneyish, USA Today, Live Happy Magazine, New York Daily News, Bravo., MTV, Prevention, Glow- Canada's Beauty Magazine, many others. Blog An ongoing blog offers updated information on Real Conscious Living at INTERNATIONAL SPEAKER Sharing Real Conscious Living in smaller venues, as a member of the National Speakers Association, includes: Public speaking to groups on gender issues, understanding differences, health, mindfulness, getting out of your own way to be of service to others, mind, body and spirit health and wellness, Neuro-linguistic programming and other topics on Real Conscious Living. Groups include The American Psychological Association, Chautauqua Institution, Corning Laboratories, the National Conference on Behavioral Medicine in San Diego CA, the International Congress of Behavioral Medicine in Amsterdam, the European Health Psychology Conference in Vienna, Austria, many conferences, conventions, educational institutions, associations, hospitals, health institutions and private groups. Adjunct faculty with five universities at the Penn State University, Chatham University, Point Park University, Robert Morris University and the University of Pittsburgh with undergraduate and graduate students National Speaking Tour with the Nursing Oncology Society on Spiritual Fitness National radio and TV tour on Stress Management techniques as an adjunct to medication Private Practice in Psychology for three decades Consultation to Schools and Institutions BOARD AND COMMITTEE MEMBER PAST AND CURRENT HIGHLIGHTS Pittsburgh Technical College (PTI) as a board member, faculty trainer and curriculum expert Homeless Children’s Education Fund (HCEF) a non-profit organization as an advisory board member to train leaders in shelters on ways to help homeless children to reduce stress, prevent bullying Robert Morris University Psychology Board to assist with curriculum development in the department of psychology Saltworks - a non-profit organization to develop live stage play curriculum to assist students at all levels to manage cyber bullying, family drug and alcohol issues, and more Pennsylvania Psychological Association media committee for development of curriculum American Psychological Association Media and Health divisions